Why 95 of people fail in a home based business

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So your a righteous jerk

It’s a funny world we live in. The lives we lead are all so different, so unique. It amazes me how many different versions of ‘the truth’ or ‘right’ there can be from just one situation and several witnesses. It makes me realise that there is no truth, and no right or wrong. Just interpretation. Although I love this theory, I realise that it’s a double edges sword, since I just loooove to be right. Sometimes I will battle to the death to prove my righteousness, only to be left with a lifeless corpse on my hands. It’s relationship homicide. Unfortunately I often get this after I’ve killed them off, realising that the only thing I’ve really proved is that I’m a big fat jerk. When I’m fighting to be right and dismissing the other person’s point of view, I’m actually loosing so much more. People will either resist me or sacrifice themselves in order to shut me up (they’re still resisting in silence, by the way). Either way, I come off being a jerk. And in case you haven’t noticed, people dislike jerks. It’s all about making people around you feel good about themselves, right (pardon the pun)? I need to remember this next time I’m shoving my (most likely stupid) opinion down someone else’s throat. I’ve also got to realise that hacking away at someone trying to prove my opinion as the right one (and theirs by default: the wrong one) exposes a massive ‘lack’ in whom I believe myself to be. Ironic really. It’s usually what I’m desperately trying to prove otherwise. So next time you feel compelled to prove your point at the expense of invalidating another, give some thought to your motives behind it. A hundred percent of the time the underlying motive is an ugly one. I believe it comes down to one of the following (or a combination): 1) When we hold onto strong opinions and beliefs in order to create stability and comfort in a world of uncertainty. The cost to this is that hanging onto certain beliefs means living in a shallow world and limited choice. It consequently blocks any form of growth. 2) Another reason for tenaciously clinging to our opinions is the fear that changing them would lead to the loss of our identity. But we are not our opinions. We are people who hold opinions and can let them go if we choose to. When we learn from others, we don’t lose our identity; we expand, enhance, and enrich it. 3) A third reason for wanting to be ‘right’ is low self-esteem (as I mentioned in my case previously). Some need to show off their ‘superiority’ to compensate for their feelings of inferiority. You can see the cost to yourself with each of these motives, but I believe the biggest cost comes down to personal relationships being harmed, and a future loss of communication, either by communication being censored or closed completely, due to ones own proven narrow mindedness. So you’re not only a jerk but a loser too. Just kidding! Just remember what you want to create in a relationship, not what you can limit by your need to be right.

Lecturer in information and communication technology devises a new system called the quick pic system used to start conversations

Conversation starters It was found that conversation starters can help any person build bridges with other people. To throw in a quote forces the issue and makes it almost impossible not to have that conversation! Obviously the quotes must be uncomplicated to be remembered and used with great effect. Quotes from real life are more interesting to people and easier to use. Quotes can be made easier to remember if they are categorized. The key to good conversation starters is the relevance to real life so that everybody can associate with it. Using pictures to illustrate the quotes make them easier to remember and thus forms real good conversation starters. It is much better to throw a quote into the conversation than to criticize or blame someone and have to backpedal because of making a faux pas. Lots of times it is difficult to think what to do to get a higher level of conversation going and a quote is just the thing. In really tough situations maybe some "story starters" are needed, but then the quote gets too long. Using a quote as a starter, it will later be easier to move the conversation over to 'what about this company' or 'current events'. Quotes certainly serve better as a conversation piece than they ever did hidden away in some dusty book. In the home usually, quotes can be more than conversation starters, engaging families in a more realistic discussion of what happens in the house. How it worked The author got quotes from all over, from journals, from books, from friends, from anywhere really, it just takes some observation. The author said “When I started lecturing I always found it difficult to get going, because, I really wasn’t in to speaking in public. I started to write these quotes down in a little notebook of interesting quotes I like to keep. Then I did a little experiment: I began dropping quotes in any kind of conversation, and it worked. People always agree or disagree, and that makes a great starting point to get the conversation going.” A Book Some people use a few quotes all the time to start talking to unfamiliar people. With a whole quote book it can take the concept to a whole new dimension. Following is an extract of a few quotes from such a book: I always prefer to believe the best of everybody - it saves so much trouble. - Rudyard Kipling If you are not being criticized, you may not be doing much. - Donald Rumsfeld Women's lib claims equal rights; so how come diamonds are a girl's best friend—but a man's best friend is his dog? - Earl Wilson While researching the subject the author found that to help to remember the quote better, it is best to categorize the quotes, and even easier to remember when it is accompanied by an illustration. That leaded the creation of just such a book. This little book is a pastiche of pieces from books, witty quotes and curious illustrations, with bias toward the funny. All short enough to remember easily. Great fun to read and great conversation starters. More information at "ConversationStarters. wizent"